Tired of Failing in Losing Weight?
If you’re like me and have been in countless weight loss programs and have found yourself repeatedly frustrated over the fact that all your efforts seem to show no results then you can count yourself among the millions of women who have quit their efforts in losing weight thinking that there’s no hope for them.
I think the reason is that many people search for ways to lose weight in the quickest possible time because they want to see fast results, which is totally understandable.
I’ve been guilty of this many times.
However I’ve since learned and realized that this simply doesn’t work.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve failed at trying to lose weight because I’ve been impatient.
Other reasons why I’ve failed is that:
- I just ‘can’t be bothered’.
- It’s too difficult.
- I miss not eating certain foods.
- It’s too expensive (depending on the diet plan at that time).
In my latest effort to lose weight, I’ve had a good hard think and given myself a talking to.
So here are the seven points I’ve come to conclude that will help me finally lose the weight.
I hope you find them useful too.
1) Your Mindset
Losing weight is as much as a mental effort as it is physical.
I used to think of losing weight as having to partake in grueling exercise programs and starvation diets. To some people, especially those with a lot of weight to lose, this may very well be the case. But of course it doesn’t have to be that way if you don’t want it to be.
I’ve finally stopped getting anxious about dieting and losing weight and be more relaxed about the subject and my weight loss journey.
I don’t have any medical problems of why I can’t lose weight, I know that it’s all in my own head and consequently carrying out the (wrong) approach to dieting.
I have now also learned that you can have ‘stress weight’. Some people lose weight when they are stressed or anxious, but for me it’s the opposite.
I don’t know the whole medical reasons why stress puts weight on you (and not by comfort eating) and why stress makes it very hard for you to lose weight, but I know it has something to do with the hormone cortisol. You can read about it here or Google it if you want a more detailed answer.
Of course, it’s hard to get rid of the stress and anxiety in your lift as a lot of it is out of our control. But I try not to let things get to me as much as I used it.
But one thing I can control is not getting stressed over my weight loss journey.
Another reason why I could never stick to a diet plan is that I didn’t truly 100% believe that I can lose the weight. I firmly believe that this is a big factor for the majority of people who want to lose weight.
Do you 100% believe that you can be slim and have the body that you would die for?
Take the test.
Say to yourself, or out loud, “I am going to lose weight and have the body that I deserve’.
When you say this and if you get little voices in the back of your mind saying things like “Oh no you’re not” or “Who are you trying to fool” then you don’t 100% believe that you can achieve your weight loss goal.
And if you don’t totally believe, then it’s not very likely that you will achieve your goal.
I could write a whole blog post on this (and I might do sometime soon), but just keep pushing those little negative voices out of the back of your mind and keep focusing on the true fact that you can and will achieve your weight loss goal.
The second factor I came ‘to terms with’ is to realize that it will take me several months to lose my weight.
I always wanted to lose weight quickly but it just never materialized – it just always ‘backfired’ on me.
I’m happy to lose 1-2 pounds a week which is the recommended healthy weight loss goal by health experts.
Fair enough if you need to lose weight quickly for an upcoming special event, but if you have a lot of weight to lose then be more than happy with one or two pounds of weight loss a week.
It all accumulates, compounds and gets you there at the end without any major disruption to your life.
3) Set a Goal
I’m sure you’ve heard all of this before, but set a goal that motivates you.
It could be as little as wanting to wear that dress/skirt/pair of jeans, be a certain weight or size or to just me more fit and healthy.
If you have a lot of weight to lose, just focus on mini goals such as losing 7 pounds at a time – or whatever metric you use – or getting down into the next weight loss bracket. For example, “My goal is to get into the 13 stones“; because you’re currently in the 14 stones bracket.
Whatever motivates and get’s you excited is the goal to set.
4) Choose Your Diet Plan
All diets work, you just have to choose a one which suits you and your lifestyle.
This is the key.
This was another biggie for me. I always hopped from one weight loss plan to the next.
Related Reading: 8 Types of Weight Loss Plans That Really Work
I think it was my subconscious mind sabotaging my weight loss efforts. This is going back to the mindset issue by not 100% believing I could lose weight and so my subconscious mind goes out of its way take me off track.
Other reasons people don’t stick to a diet plan is that they have chosen the wrong one for them and it doesn’t fit in with their lifestyle.
I now have the mindset that if I’m going to successfully lose all of my weight and keep it off for good, then I need to change my eating and drinking habits for good.
So this isn’t about following a diet for say 8 months until I lose the weight and then revert back to my old habits.
I know that reading the above sentence sounds silly, but I would say that 90% of dieters do this. You see it time and time again; people lose the weight and then pile it all back on again.
This is because they:
- Don’t have the right mindset.
- Haven’t changed their eating habits.
- Thought of weight management as a lifetime and lifestyle change.
So my best advice is to mindfully understand what type of eater you are and what foods you like and then find a diet plan based around those.
Related Reading: 8 Types of Weight Loss Plans That Really Work
By ‘what type of eater you are’, I mean do you like to graze all day long? Or does three meals a day suffice you?
If you like to graze all day long, then adopting an intermittent fasting eating plan lifestyle will definitely not be for you.
The Anxiety Test
Bear with me on this.
If you’ve heard of a particular diet and/or you know someone who has lost a lot of weight by following a certain weight loss plan then you”ll probably think “Ooohh, I’ll follow that plan too.” But then you look at what the diet entails and it gives you an ‘ugh’ feeling or even get a bit of anxiety just by thinking of sticking to that particular plan long-term.
So if you get an uncomfortable feeling when you read the details of a weight loss plan, then I would say to pass on that one and read-up on another one.
When you find a plan that gets you excited, then that’s the plan to choose for you.
I’m a Weight Watchers girl.
Believe me, I’ve tried just about all diets under the sun but I always revert back to WW. It just suits me and my lifestyle because it is so flexible.
To help you keep focused on your weight loss journey, it would be best to have a partner or a support group around you. These people will help you boost your dedication and keep your mind on the right track towards your goal.
So if you go to WW, then there’s your support group right there especially if you attend the classes. If you do it online, then there’s the email support and members’ forum to participate it.
There’s loads of weight loss forums and Facebook groups to keep you motivated and to mingle with like-minded members for tips and advice too.
6) Move More
Again, this is very personal preference based on your lifestyle and overall health & fitness levels so I’m not going to preach to you about exercising for 30 minutes every single day.
If you like exercise or want to follow a particular exercise regime, then you might find these two articles helpful:
Do the anxiety test again but for exercise workouts.
If one gives you an ugh feeling, skip that and find a one that gets you excited or at least mildly excited!
Of course, you don’t have to follow any type of exercise regimen if you don’t want to.
You just need to move more.
This could be:
- Walking the kids to school
- A sport as a hobby
And finally, allow yourself to have plenty of sleep. Lack of sleep will make you feel tired and without energy the next day. This will lead you to want to eat food to boost your energy levels.
So these are my 7 steps to take for effective weight loss and long-term maintenance. I hope you got at least a little something to take away from these too.
Also, if you don’t have a diet plan in mind, then you might find my article on 8 Types of Weight Loss Plans That Really Work helpful as it goes through the different types of diet plans which are available where I have put them into eight different categories so you can see what’s available today to help you lose weight healthy and successfully.